I place a high value on honesty and mutual respect.

We all make mistakes. At one point or another, we have all made the wrong choice. And, sometimes those mistakes or poor choices can hurt someone for whom we care. It happens. When it does happen and we “drop the ball” —- I think it is important to take the time and energy to just say you’re sorry.

Being honest and apologizing can mean a lot.

However, hedging from the truth and personal responsibility can mean a lot more.

I wonder why more people do not appreciate the importance of integrity and principles. I guess it ties back into the reason the individual loses her/his grip on the ball in the first place. The thing is we do have “a say” in these things. The mistake and decision might have been unavoidable for a number of reasons, but I can’t think of a valid reason an individual would not accept ownership and try to mend the damage done. It really isn’t that hard to be honest.

Maybe I expect too much.


August 16, 2005. Uncategorized.


  1. Jennifer replied:

    You could be writing about my last boyfriend. Never once did I get an ‘I am so sorry I hurt you like that.’ Never. I got ‘I think I’m going through my mid-life crisis.’

    Which, as you might imagine, is not something I view as anything resembling an apology or ownership of one’s behavior. And this from a man who think’s he’s God’s gift to the idea of Personal Responsibility.


    And no, your expectations are not too high. If people fail to reach them, it’s because they’re failures in that realm, not because you set the bar too high.

  2. Anonymous replied:

    admitting failure or having done wrong, is not mens forte’ !
    To say sorry is soooo hard to do, and to admit having done wrong is even worse. It shows lack of charackter . The admitting of having done wrong & asking for forgivness is so very uplifting , it builds charackter!

  3. Eddo replied:

    Who wants to admit when they are wrong? It all comes down to pride – pride gets us all into trouble.

  4. Anonymous replied:

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  5. Anonymous replied:

    take your own advice?

  6. matt replied:

    A3 — As a matter of fact, I do!

  7. g8s replied:

    In the spirit of your post, I say disable the anonymous comment option on your blog, so everyone will have to put up or shut up.

  8. Jennifer replied:

    Comments now require registration, compliments of Matt’s blog elf.

  9. matt replied:

    I love my Blog Elf — tho, I tend to think of her more as my Blog Fairy Princess. She rocks and sparkles!

  10. digitic replied:

    Good going!

    I agree with the other folks in that those who want to comment should make themselves known.

    If a comment is valid and approprite there’s no reason to hide, eh?

    By the way, I find the elf a little freaky …

  11. Karyn replied:

    Yeah, I mostly get Here’s Why It’s All Your Fault , rather than apologies. Oh well. Your expectations aren’t too high. They’re on target. Humanity isn’t trying hard enough, that’s the problem!

    Now – dish! What happened to warrant this blog entry??? (And where’d Karl go? Do you know?)

  12. joe replied:

    obviously I’m missing something here in the comment section… but about your post.. it’s hard to be honest and to ask for forgiveness. but I also think it’s hard to also forgive someone who’ve wronged you badly. being honest, being forgiving, giving respect, it’s not asking too much. we should ask that of ourselves each day.

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